{"id":2331,"date":"2021-05-06T14:49:10","date_gmt":"2021-05-06T06:49:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.pacificprime.co.uk\/blog\/?p=2331"},"modified":"2021-05-06T14:49:10","modified_gmt":"2021-05-06T06:49:10","slug":"how-to-set-boundaries-at-work","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pacificprime.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-set-boundaries-at-work\/","title":{"rendered":"How to set boundaries at work"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever been asked to work beyond the standard office working hours? Or perhaps had your personal values being compromised in some way, say by non-consensual touch or unsolicited advice? You\u2019re not alone. Research shows that the <a href=\"https:\/\/research.udemy.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Udemy-2019-Workplace-Boundaries-Report-20190923.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">workplace is fraught with questionable behaviours and crossed boundaries<\/a>. The good news is that you can learn how to set boundaries with coworkers at work, and this<a href=\"https:\/\/www.pacificprime.co.uk\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"> Pacific Prime UK<\/a> article will walk you through a step-by-step process.<\/p>\n<div class='code-block code-block-1' style='margin: 8px 0; clear: both;'>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pacificprime.co.uk\/compare-quotes\/step-one\/?campSource=PPUK-Blog&utm_source=blog&utm_medium=content_banner&utm_campaign=banner&utm_content=single\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-774\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.pacificprime.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/PPUK-blog-banners-1138x493-px_02-03.jpg?resize=700%2C303&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Individual health insurance blog\" width=\"700\" height=\"303\" \/><\/a><\/p><\/div>\n\n<h2>Step 1: Define a \u2018boundary\u2019 and know its importance<\/h2>\n<p>Definitions are always a good place to begin. After all, how can you begin setting boundaries at work if you don\u2019t know what a boundary is or why it\u2019s important. Put simply, boundaries are the guidelines and rules that you create to identify reasonable and permissible ways for others to behave towards you and how you will respond when someone violates those defined limits.<\/p>\n<p>Boundaries can be physical and tangible. These involve your body, personal space, and privacy. For instance, you may feel uncomfortable sharing a hotel room with a coworker on a business trip. But crucially, boundaries can also be emotional and intangible, and involve separating your feelings from another person\u2019s feelings such as if you are uncomfortable gossiping with your coworkers.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s really important to set healthy boundaries, both in your personal and work life. This is due to the fact that boundaries are there to protect you, whether this is by:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Clarifying what is and isn\u2019t your responsibility<\/li>\n<li>Enabling you to focus on yourself and live up to your values<\/li>\n<li>Preserving your physical and emotional energy<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Step 2: Reflect on your values: Are there limits or no-go zones?<\/h2>\n<p>Frank Sonnenberg, the author of the book \u2018Listen to your conscience: That\u2019s why you have one\u2019, said:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cRemain true to your values. If you don\u2019t stand for something, you\u2019ll fall for anything.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>From your culture and religion to personality and experience, everyone has a set of values they follow &#8211; albeit, some more strictly than others. To set your boundaries, you\u2019ll need to identify what your values are. If you\u2019ve got clearly defined values &#8211; such as not drinking alcohol, then setting boundaries might be easier. If not, you\u2019ll need to figure out your values.<\/p>\n<h3>Consider your feelings as they can tell you a lot about your values<\/h3>\n<p>Pay attention to how you react to different situations. Are there particular things that you think you can tolerate and accept, but that makes you feel uncomfortable, resentful, or guilty? Use these feelings as a guide to set your boundaries. It\u2019s important to remember that your feelings are your own, and even if they aren\u2019t the same as your family, friends, or coworkers, that\u2019s perfectly okay.<\/p>\n<h3>Boundaries: When to say yes?<\/h3>\n<p>That being said, don\u2019t use feelings as an excuse. If you\u2019re not doing something at work because it makes you uncomfortable, such as public speaking in front of a large crowd, it may not necessarily be related to your values. Rather, it could be something for you to work on, push yourself, and grow as a person. Unfortunately, there\u2019s no hard and fast rule for when to say yes, as each person\u2019s situation is different.<\/p>\n<h2>Step 3: Give yourself permission to set boundaries<\/h2>\n<p>As we\u2019re now facing a global economic recession, triggered by the unprecedented COVID-19 pandemic, many businesses are going to go bust, and with it &#8211; jobs. In this situation, you may feel grateful for the job, and less inclined to set boundaries. Again, this is a personal decision and no one knows your situation better than you.<\/p>\n<p>However, you should know that the biggest obstacle to setting boundaries is usually your feelings of fear, guilt, self-doubt, etc. For example, you may feel like you don\u2019t deserve the job in the first place, let alone to dictate your boundaries. This is known as \u2018<a href=\"https:\/\/www.pacificprime.com\/blog\/overcome-imposter-syndrome-workplace-5-tips.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">imposter syndrome<\/a>\u2019. When these feelings surface, you need to remind yourself that you do have the right to set boundaries, and give yourself the permission to do so.<\/p>\n<h2>Step 4: Communicate boundaries clearly<\/h2>\n<p>Now we get to the part where we actually establish a boundary by communicating it to relevant parties. You could arrange a meeting with your manager, lay your limits up front, and give actionable solutions (if any). For example, if you\u2019re struggling with maintaining a good work-life balance due to having to answer work calls from colleagues at odd hours, you should clearly tell them the hours you will be available for work-related conversations.<\/p>\n<p>Try to avoid declining unreasonable requests with vague statements like you\u2019re stressed or you\u2019ve got too much on your plate. This makes you seem like you\u2019re whining, which may come across as self-centered and unprofessional. Rather, seek to understand why the request was made in the first place, establish your position with concrete examples, and make it relevant to the other party.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Side note:<\/strong> Setting boundaries for work-life balance is a massive problem &#8211; one that is exacerbated by the \u201calways on\u201d culture. This is a by-product of the technological era and smartphones, which enables you to be connected to colleagues and work matters even if you\u2019re not physically in the office. We talk about this phenomenon at length in our inaugural <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pacificprime.com\/corporate\/global-employee-benefits-trends-2020\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Global Employee Benefits Trends Report 2020.<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>Step 5: Flag up a boundary violation immediately<\/h2>\n<p>Even after you\u2019ve set your boundaries and communicated them clearly, there are chances that your boundaries will be violated from time to time. While you may feel upset about the violation and want to dwell on the feelings, it\u2019s best not to leave it for days or weeks before you bring it up, as doing so can cause your complaint to lose its power. The better approach is to address it as soon as possible.<\/p>\n<p>Depending on the nature of the boundary violation, there may be different ways to flag it up.\u00a0For example, sexual harassment at work may warrant reporting the incident to HR. In fact, your employer may also have guidance on this. On the other hand, if your colleague invites you to gossip, you can simply and politely tell them in the moment that you don\u2019t want to get involved.<\/p>\n<h2>Get in touch with Pacific Prime UK today!<\/h2>\n<p>Feelings of discomfort, resentment, or guilt that come up when a boundary is violated can be incredibly damaging to your mental health and wellbeing. Given the mind-body connection, mental health concerns can also spill over into physical health problems. If your company has <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pacificprime.com\/corporate\/employee-benefits-solution\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">corporate health insurance or employee benefit plans<\/a>, such as employee assistance programs (EAPs), you should take advantage of these.<\/p>\n<p>But whether or not your employer provides health insurance, you can also get in touch with <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pacificprime.co.uk\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Pacific Prime UK<\/a>. We take into account your unique needs and budgets, and help you find the best-value solution. From basic plans to comprehensive plans, our health plans are highly personalizable, and we can also help you secure <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pacificprime.co.uk\/international-health-insurance\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">international health plans<\/a> that cover you worldwide.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pacificprime.co.uk\/contact-us\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Contact us<\/a> to learn more!<\/p>\n<div class='code-block code-block-6' style='margin: 8px 0; clear: both;'>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pacificprime.co.uk\/compare-quotes\/step-one\/?campSource=PPUK-Blog&utm_source=blog&utm_medium=cta_banner&utm_campaign=banner&utm_content=quote\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-781\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.pacificprime.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/PPUK_quote-image-01-1.jpg?resize=700%2C303&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Get an Insurance quote banner\" width=\"700\" height=\"303\" \/><\/a><\/p><\/div>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Have you ever been asked to work beyond the standard office working hours? Or perhaps had your personal values being compromised in some way, say by non-consensual touch or unsolicited advice? You\u2019re not alone. Research shows that the workplace is fraught with questionable behaviours and crossed boundaries. 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